List of Encouraging Words and Phrases

I so need this… my patience is running low right now with my 4 year old. I’m grabbing all the patience and praying for it because she’s off to school by September. And as a mom, I need to review all these encouraging words as well. Oh God help me on this.

Encouraging words can be as simple as, “Thanks for your help!” or “You really worked hard!” Here are a few more examples to try around your house:

Thank you for your help!
You should be proud of yourself!
Look at your improvement!
That “A” reflects a lot of hard work!
You worked really hard to get this room clean!
Thanks for helping set the table, that made a big difference.
I noticed you were really patient with your little brother.
What do you think about it?
You seem to really enjoy science.
Your hard work paid off!
That’s a tough one, but you’ll figure it out.
Look how far you’ve come!
I trust your judgment.
The time you’re putting into your homework is really paying off.
I love being with you.
You really put a smile on her face with your kind words!
That’s coming along nicely!
You really worked it out!
That’s a very good observation.
Thank you for your cooperation.
I see a very thorough job!
That’s what we call perseverance!
I can tell you really care.
You make it look easy!
You’ve really got the hang of it!
I can tell you spent a lot of time thinking this through.
I really feel like a team when we work like this!

The best part about using encouraging words with your kids is the glow of happiness you’ll see on their faces. After all, “Your hard work is really paying off!” says you noticed their work, while, “You’re so smart,” might be hard to live up to next time. Try a few of these encouraging words with your kids, and watch their behavior—and effort—improve.

For Dear Parents

When I was still young, I didn’t know yet how to appreciate the works of my parents and how they are coping up to secure our family’s needs and wants. But as I grow old with knowing the reason behind their sacrifices, it made me realize how indeed lucky I am to have such loving and selfless parents. We may have ups and downs and lots of arguments in between, but in the end, they never shut down their doors for us. And we’re still a family no matter what.

We have to accept that time will come that our parents will grow older. We can’t prevent that. It’s called life. As I look at these bedside chair and commode and very stylish and modern bedside commode, I can’t help myself but cry. I can’t imagine my life without them.

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I’m praying to provide them years as they are both in the middle of their senior age and I hope that by choosing the right products for them, they’ll be satisfied once that stage of their life comes in. It may cost much as we expected it to be, but price is never a matter if we’re talking about our parents. They never charged us for anything when we were asking for candies, clothing, new toys and drinks to fill our tummies, right? So it’s just our responsibility to give them back what they truly deserve in life.

I’m beginning to feel mushy here, hahaha! I just miss them so much. I just hope that we can go home by next year to see them and enjoy a quick get away from the city.

Handling Lies

My 3 year old in some ways starting to tell lies even if I knew that she’s the one to blame. I read the article below and I’m so happy that it’s not that bad at all. Read on and hope it clarifies on what situation you’re into as well.

If you haven’t heard your child tell a whopper yet, don’t be shocked if the day arrives soon. She may vigorously deny having broken your antique china cup even if you saw her do it. Why? It’s not malicious, you’ll be glad to hear. If the incident happened more than a few hours ago, she may truly not recall it, for one thing. Three-year-olds’ memories are still short, especially for anything that makes them uncomfortable. Or she may remember, but understanding that it wasn’t the right thing to do, she now wishes that she hadn’t touched it. So she convinces herself — and then tries to convince you — of her innocence by wishing the smash away. Children don’t tolerate emotional pain, so they reinvent their own reality or pass the buck to someone else. This process is quite automatic as children become convinced of the truth of what they’re saying.
Intentional, manipulative, or malevolent intent to deceive doesn’t happen at this age. Try not to accuse your child directly, especially if you know she’s guilty. Instead, say something like, "I saw you knock over the cup. You need to tell me when things like that happen. Come help me clean it up." You want her to be able to come to you and speak the truth without fearing your anger or harsh reprimands. You can teach her an appropriate response and a way to make up for the harm. Above all, your child needs to know that you love her no matter what mistakes she makes.

Discipline

I’m a mom of 2 kids and I want to make sure that I’m bringing them up as properly behaved as possible. I don’t like to have impolite kids in the future because that’s not what my parents taught me to be. So I’m looking over the guidelines below for reference.

First, the ground rules

To set the stage for discipline success, here are the bottom-line rules many experts agree on:

1. We’re all in this together. Right from the start, teach your kids that your family is a mutual support system, meaning that everyone pitches in. Even a baby can learn to "help" you lift her by reaching out her arms, says Madelyn Swift, founder and director of Childrightand author of Discipline for Life, Getting It Right With Children.
2. Respect is mutual. One of the most common complaints parents and kids have about each other is "You’re not listening." Set a good example early on: When your child tries to tell you something, stop what you’re doing, focus your attention, and listen. Later you can require the same courtesy from her.
3. Consistency is king. One good way to raise a child with emotional strength? Be consistent and unwavering about rules and chores, says Harvard professor Dan Kindlon, author of Too Much of a Good Thing. Even if you pick just one chore to insist on, your child will be better off, Kindlon says. "Being firm and consistent teaches your child that you care enough about him to expect responsible behavior."
4. Life’s not always fair. We’re so afraid of disappointing or upsetting our kids — too afraid, say some discipline pros. "If a child never experiences the pain of frustration — of having to share a toy or wait their turn in line — or if they’re never sad or disappointed, they won’t develop psychological skills that are crucial for their future happiness," says Kindlon.

How to Tell if Your Child is Ready for Preschool

Is my child ready for Preschool? Here are some questions that a mother like me should think of and I guess to train from just in case I haven’t done that to my child. Hope it helps you too.

One way to determine this is to ask yourself if your child has all the PIECES in place for preschool, where "pieces" is an acronym that stands for potty training, independence, expressiveness, concentration, endurance, and separation.

“P” is for Potty Training
“I” is for Independence
“E” is for Expressiveness
“C” is for Concentration
“E” is for Endurance
“S” is for Separation
 

Once you’re sure your child has all the PIECES in place, the hardest part of sending her to preschool may be your own emotions! Take heart in Abie’s observation that she has never “had a child [who] cried more than five minutes after mom left.”

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For Parents

Do you feel shy when your kids throw tantrums in the middle of the grocery store, in the park, at the school, malls and lastly when you’re all dine-in in a restaurant? Well I’ve read this article about a mom who shared her experiences with her kid. Please read and give your thoughts afterward.

It’s not often that I get the pleasure of shopping with just one kid, but the other day I was out at Costco with just my two-year-old.  We were zooming down the isles, and I was really in my element, thinking about how fun and easy it is to have just one baby. Suddenly our peaceful moment was ruined when we heard incredibly loud screaming.  My little guy even looked worried. "Kid crying?" he asked.

We glanced down the isle and saw The Problem. A kid who appeared also appeared to be around two years old was struggling to get out of the cart. He was crying and kicking and having a complete melt-down. I admit that I felt gloriously happy to have the kid who wasn’t crying, but I also felt so sorry for the poor mom. She looked tired and defeated and I heard her tell the kid, "Why can’t you be a good boy? Do you see these other kids? They’re just sitting in their carts, minding their own business. You’re the only one crying."

The mom rushed around the store, trying to ignore the tantrum, and meanwhile I had a fun little shopping date with my Little Buddy.

At the end of the day, it was time to pick up Big Sister from preschool.  I unstrapped my toddler from his car seat and he reached for his milk cup. "Bring inside?" he asked.

I thought about it for a second. If he brought the cup inside, it would get all covered with preschool germs. Plus, my daughter would immediately demand milk too, and I hadn’t brought any for her.

"No," I decided.  "Let’s just leave it here. We’ll be back in just a few minutes."

At that point, my perfect little angel decided to throw a fit. He started screaming and crying and clutching that stupid milk cup. The other moms in the parking lot started to stare at me. Suddenly, I was the lady with the crying kid. I could feel myself getting hot and bothered. I was tempted to change my mind. I almost did because I really wasn’t enjoying being the mom with the kid who won’t stop crying. Yet I knew that I couldn’t give in now, because if I did, he would learn that all he has to do is cry and I’ll give in to whatever he wants. I pried the milk cup from his hands and pulled him out of his seat. I would like to say that he quit crying once he realized I wasn’t giving in.  I would like to say that he forgot about once he saw his Big Sister, but he didn’t.

That kid cried all the way in to school, the entire time I was talking to my daughter’s teacher, and all the way to the car. Other moms continued to stare at me in a judgy-compassionate way, but I held my ground. Sure, it would have been easier to give in. He would have stopped crying and pleasantly walked inside, but I taught him an important lesson that day. He doesn’t get his way just because he’s crying.  And I learned an important lesson too.  Just because a kid is pitching a fit in a store or parking lot doesn’t mean that the parents don’t have it under control. Sometimes the best parents are the ones with the screaming kids. ~source

See the last sentence in bold?

3 Ways to Stop a Tantrum in Its Tracks

I hate it when kids throws tantrums from time to time. So I checked out some information that might help a parent like me who don’t like this to happen – most especially in public.

1. Distract
2. Show Empathy
3. Give Your Child Space

Easy to say in just 3 steps, now let’s apply it for real.