For Our 5th Year

Today is our 5th year as husband and wife. I had to made a layout for this day, but I don’t have much time this morning to scrap from scratch. In times like this, a call for QP for the rescue.

Today marks another year for us Sweety. 5 years of being together. Having you every day is already a blessing for us. Alhamdulillah for having you back. Our 4th year was a tough year for us. But we made it through, by the grace of Allah. Now on our 5th, I know that we can do everything together. I’ll stand by your side, love, care and be the best wife for you. I’ll cook for you too, hahaha! Happy Anniversary Sweety. Thank you for the love, care, trust, for being a generous person, and for just simply loving and accepting me as I am. I love you with all my heart and soul.

LO Credits: Blog Train Freebie ZigZagScrap.com by Natascha; INDSD "Memory Keepers" collab kit 2011.

Garden Plants

I wish I have a garden of my own. But I don’t have a green thumb. I’m currently looking over SIL’s bamboo plants. I’m the one who make sure that they have enough water to sustain for a week and all the roots are clean as well. I think indoor plants is good for me. Having your own garden and lots of patio planters will be a big role for me, I can assure you that. So having one, is totally out of my wish list ;)

Home Curtains

I mentioned already before that my friend already moved in to their new home. They are currently renovating their garage. She said that they are lucky to be one of the new owners of these townhouse. She showed me this elegant honeycomb shades that she’s thinking to buy.

I like of course the idea of having a shade behind a curtain like these. Love the combination of course. And the colors of the wall on this picture reminds me of our home. I wish that everything will turn perfect for them.

How to Raise a Spiritual Child

We all have our own beliefs. This may be a sensitive issue to handle with our kids. I’m a born Christian and went back to embrace Islam last February 2007. I myself is still in need to learn more about my beliefs. I’m in the learning process. But I’m already practicing the 5 pillars of Islam. Because it’s a must before even converting to Islam. But that’s not the issue.

 

Telling my kids the right thing to do doesn’t involve religion. But it’s important to show them and for me to teach them that above all things here on earth, there’s one Allah God above all that matters most.

There’s one sentence that I taught my daughter, that is “Allah is in my heart.”. Sometimes she even tells me “Mama, where is Allah?”, and I will be surprised when she’ll answer back with the sentence that I taught her to say. It makes me feel blessed actually. She may not understand what it means, but I’m happy that she knows what to say.

Below are some major points that I think is a must for you to develop with your children:

Clarify your own beliefs.
Introduce spirituality early on.
Don’t pretend to have all the answers.
Use daily events to teach spirituality.
Instill an appreciation of nature.
Tell stories.
Build on family traditions.
Make it fun.
Practice silence.
Introduce a simple form of prayer.
(My daughter knows when it’s time to pray. She see us pray 5x a day and when the call of prayer starts, she even calls our attention by saying “Mama, it’s adhan (call of prayer).”)
Stress the spiritual side of holidays.
Consider joining a faith community.

Follow your child’s lead.

We may call our own creator different names, God almighty, Creator, Dyos, Panginoon, Lord, Elijah, Yaweh and so much more, but I believe that we all have a faith to believe in. And that is to believe that theirs is a God that watches over us.

How to Teach Your Preschooler to Share

“Sharing is Caring” says Barney the Dinosaur. We’re teaching Julia right now to start sharing things, most especially to her little sister. We started of with her sharing her kitchen toys. And now we’re in the bridge of her to start sharing with her food. Here’s a recent photo of her eating lunch on a simple Friday with SIL’s family. I’m so glad that she can be independent from time to time.

It’s really not easy to tell her to share things that she has. Because with her, it’s like putting away something that she loves most. But we told her that sharing means you love the person you’re sharing the things you own already. Defining “love” is very broad for a 3 year old, so we always put Barney as an example. It works with her though. She said that she loves her sister just like Barney so she’ll share her toys with her younger sister.

But this is not enough. So I made more research just in case I need more reference when it’s time for Julie’s turn to be on this stage.

Make sharing fun. Teach your preschooler cooperative games in which players work together toward a common goal. Do puzzles together, taking turns adding pieces, for instance. Finally, give him things to share with his buddies now and then, like a special snack for preschool or a roll of stickers to divvy up during a playdate.

Don’t punish stinginess. If you tell your preschooler that he’s selfish, discipline him when he doesn’t share, or force him to hand over a prized possession, you’ll foster resentment, not generosity. "To encourage sharing, use positive reinforcement rather than admonishment," Leiderman says. Keep in mind, too, that it’s okay for your preschooler to hold back certain items. As he matures, he’ll learn that sharing with friends — who are becoming increasingly important to him — is more fun than keeping things to himself.

Talk it up. When kids squabble over toys, help them figure out what’s really going on. If a friend is holding something back, explain to your child how his buddy might be feeling. For instance: "Josh really likes that toy, and he doesn’t want anyone to play with it right now." Help your preschooler put his own feelings into words too. When he’s not acting especially generous, ask him what’s up. Maybe you’ll discover that there’s a shortage of train tracks at his preschool or that he especially prizes his Pokémon cards because they were a present from Grandpa.

Teach your preschooler to problem-solve. If your child has a death grip on a toy truck that his playmate wants, chances are he’s thinking, "It’s either him or me." The concept of sharing the truck may not even have occurred to him. Encourage your preschooler to take turns with the truck (setting a kitchen timer to mark each child’s turn may help), reassure him that sharing isn’t the same as giving away, and point out that if he shares his toys with friends, they’ll be more inclined to share theirs with him.

Set the stage. Before a playdate, ask your preschooler if there’s anything he’d rather not share, and help him find a good place to keep those special toys. Then ask him to think of some things that would be fun for him and his visitor to play with together, such as toy walkie-talkies, art and craft supplies, building blocks, and sports equipment. That will put him in a sharing frame of mind when his guest arrives. Ask his pal to bring along a toy or two of his own as well, since your preschooler may be more generous if he’s not the only one doing the giving.

Respect your preschooler’s things. If your youngster feels that his clothes, books, and toys are being manhandled, it’s unlikely that he’ll give them up even for a moment. So ask permission before you borrow his colored pencils, and give him the option of saying no. Make sure that siblings, friends, and babysitters respect his things too, by asking if they can use them and by taking good care of them when they do.

Lead by example. The best way for your preschooler to learn generosity is to witness it. So share your ice cream with him. Offer him your scarf to fashion into a superhero’s cape, and ask if you can try on his new cap. Use the word share to describe what you’re doing, and don’t forget to teach him that intangibles (like feelings, ideas, and stories) can be shared too. Most important, let him see you give and take, compromise, and share with others.

I like the way they talk about showing the right affections for one another. It will really help you to set up a good start for them to share what they have.

How Can I Raise A Gracious Loser?

Here are photos of my young ones playing her cousins. Julia is in the age of crying whenever she looses a game, which really annoys me since she will gradually say “I don’t like to play anymore…”. And the problem is that her cousins are not sport as well whenever they play together.

 

We tried explaining things to her, but I guess we’re not explaining it in her own language. Meaning, we need to speak like a child as well in order for her to understand things. But we’re really failing on these stage right now. So hubby asked me on how we can solve this issue. I myself can’t explain so I made a research about it.

Young children are not as concerned with winning and losing as they are with enjoying themselves while playing. However, this doesn’t always stop them from getting distressed or angry when they lose. To help your youngster handle the inevitable, try these tips:

  • Be a good loser yourself. It’s important for your child to see you taking a loss well. If your team loses the company softball game, shrug it off instead of blaming the umpire. (The more you analyze why you lost, the more value you place on winning.) When your preschooler beats you at a well-played game of Chutes and Ladders, say "I lost, but that’s okay. Maybe I’ll win next time." And don’t forget to express how much fun you had simply playing with him.
  • Give him experience. The phrase "Practice makes perfect" applies to losing as well as to winning. If your child never ends up with the Old Maid when he plays cards with you, he won’t know how to handle it the first time he plays with a buddy and loses. If he’s on a huge losing streak, you can let him win once in a while (don’t let him know you’re doing it!), but for the most part, let the rules of the game dictate the outcome.
  • Don’t be competitive. It’s your job to make winning a consequence of the game and not the point of the game. Be very casual about losing. For example, instead of counting up the pairs in a game of Go Fish, simply shuffle the cards and ask your child if he wants to play again. By taking the competitiveness out of the game, you can help minimize the bitterness that comes with losing.

Reading the above incite made me really understand that it really is a must to show that you as a parent set an example to your kid. Because she’ll copy the things that you do.

Julia does everything her cousins will do. So I need to check on her every now and then just to make sure that she’s still on the right track. I hope that it will work this time.

Pursuit of Happiness

Saw this over Kathycot’s blog and grab it.

1. Are you happy?
>> Aiwa. Alhamdulillah.
2. What makes you happy?
>> Being with the people who made my life meaningful every single second of my life.
3. Who makes you happy?
>> My FAMILY.
4. Complete this sentence: Happiness is…
>> loving what you have and still happy not having the things you don’t.
5. What’s the best feeling in the world other than being happy?
>> Being loved in return.
6. What color makes you happy?
>> Turquoise and Pink.
7. Would you rather be rich and sad or poor and happy?
>> Poor and Happy.
8. Do you have a happy song? What is it?
>> “Barney’s I Love You” theme song. 
9. Kindly share a few lines of that happy song.
>> “I love you… You love me… We’re a happy family… With a great big hug and a kiss from me to you… Won’t you say you love me too…”
10. What’s the happiest moment in your life?
>> Finding my soulmate and being married to him.

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